Pleasant Hill Christian School: TK-6th grade, Sebastopol, CA
1782 Pleasant Hill Rd., 
Sebastopol, CA 95472
707-823-5868
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Summer Fun for Sonoma County Families

6/24/2019

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Sunshine beams down at noonday, the garden blooms, and your children are...home.

All.  Day.  Long.

We get it.  Don't worry: we're here to help. 

Here are some affordable, or even FREE things to do around Sonoma County for you and your kiddos this summer:

ADVENTURE CAMP AT HESSEL CHURCH - July 8-12th

Get ready for ROAR Adventure Camp - this summer's mane event! This week long camp is ABSOLUTELY FREE for kids going into Kindergarten - 5th grade (MUST be 5 years old by September 1, 2019). Camp runs every day from 9am-12:20pm.
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FREE BOWLING FOR KIDS
Registered Kids Receive 2 FREE GAMES Of Bowling Each Day Of The KBF Program All Summer Long, Valued At Over $500 Per Child!
Kids Bowl Free

THE WATER PARK AT SPRING LAKE
The swimming lagoon water park is a popular addition to Spring Lake Regional Park. The inflatable playground features floating slides, climbing walls, bridges, balance beams, jumps, and trampolines.  $10/day OR $60/whole summer PLUS you get an hour paddleboard or boat rental each day!
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MOVIE DEALS AROUND TOWN FOR KIDS
Airport Cinemas Presents:
Airport Movies

Third Street Cinemas Presents:
Third Street Cinemas

Reading Cinemas in Rohnert Park Presents:
Reel Kids Link

Windsor Town Green Presents:
Family Movies on the Green

FAIR ENTRIES FOR FREE TICKETS TO THIS YEAR'S FAIR!
Your child(ren) can enter all kinds of categories at the Sonoma County Fair and get free tickets and cool prizes!
Online Entry Process
For early fun, check out their Pre-Fair Contests for your child(ren).
Pre-Fair Contests


When your kids are bouncing off the walls at home, bookmark this page!  It's good to have a trusted resource handy when you need one.

Enjoy your summer with your families. 
"Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up."  Galatians 6:9



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A Directory of Christian Schools and Homeschools in Sonoma County

5/8/2019

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The Shifting Horizon of Christian Education in Sonoma County

Seeing God's fingerprints in life's unexpected shifts is not always easy. We are deeply saddened along with many of you about the abrupt announcement of the closure of Rincon Valley Christian School.  It was the only Christian school in Sonoma County that taught preschool up through 12th grade, and is leaving a great hole in the Christian community.  We are thankful for the 50+ years that Santa Rosa Bible Church ministered to families in Sonoma County through Rincon Valley Christian School.  

During times of great shake-up like this, God's fingerprints start to emerge.  The Christian community has rallied.  Other Christian schools have reached out to the families who attended RVCS.  Other families and churches have banded together to set up both a new day school and a new homeschool program on the old RVCS campus.  The new day school is aptly named Victory Christian Academy, an independant Christian School.  The new homeschool program to replace the PSP program is American Christian Academy, Sonoma County Extension Campus.   The message is clear:  the Body of Christ is alive and well, with one of its highest priorities being access to quality Christian education for its families.

In this spirit of unity, as the Body of Christ, we at Pleasant Hill Christian School wanted to create a central directory for prospective families looking for distinctly Christian education in Sonoma County with the newly changed landscape.  Whether you're interested in a traditional day school, or a homeschool program, we pray you find what fits your family's needs.   May we help each other find our unique fit as we link arms to "train up a child in the way they should go." (Proverbs 22:6a)

Day Schools in Sonoma County (from North to South...see map below):

Windsor Christian Academy (ministry of Windsor Baptist Church)
  • Only Christian Day School in Windsor
  • K-8th Academic Program
  • On-Campus Preschool Program
  • Extra-curricular Sports Program
  • International Student Program
  • Member of the Association of Christian Schools International (ACSI)
  • Graduates most often attend Windsor High School
  • www.windsorchristianacademy.org

Victory Christian Academy (Independent Christian School, at the old RVCS campus)
  • New school offering K-12th grades
  • On the beautiful Santa Rosa Bible Church campus
  • Only Protestant Christian High School in Sonoma County
  • Focus on Discipleship throughout grades
  • Planning Sports, Music, & Performing Arts
  • Strong Parental Support
  • www.victoryca.org

Pleasant Hill Christian School (ministry of Occidental Community Church)
  • Only Christian Day School in Sebastopol
  • K-6th Whole-hearted Elementary Focus (heart, soul, mind, strength)
  • Housed in Historic schoolhouse
  • Family atmosphere with low Student-to-Teacher ratios
  • Enrichment classes (Music, Spanish, Art, Physical Education, Technology)
  • Member of the Association of Christian Schools International (ACSI)
  • Graduates have often gone to Twin Hills Charter and Rincon Valley Christian.
  • www.phcs.org

Cross & Crown Lutheran School (ministry of Cross & Crown Lutheran Church)
  • Only Christian Day School in Rohnert Park
  • K-6th Quality Christian Education
  • Preschool Program
  • Private School Satellite Program for Home-Schoolers
  • Spanish, Art, Music, & Physical Education integrated into Curriculum
  • www.crossandcrownschool.org
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Harvest Christian School (Independent Classical & Christian School)
  • Only Christian Day School in Petaluma
  • TK-8th Classical & Christian Curriculum
  • Extracurricular Athletics during the school year and Summer Basketball Camps
  • Exciting Theater Arts Program
  • Student Body represents over 25 local Churches
  • Fully Accredited by the Western Association of Schools & Colleges (WASC) & Member of the Association of Christian Schools International (ACSI)
  • Graduates have often attended Private High Schools and Casa Grande HS
  • www.harvestpetaluma.org

Homeschool Programs:

American Christian Academy – Sonoma County Extension Campus (at the old RVCS campus)
  • Christ-centered Extension Campus of American Christian Academy for Homeschooling Families K-12th grades
  • Additional High School Assistance, including: Driver’s Ed. & Work Permits
  • Optional Friday Community Days through the Eagle's Nest of ACA-SC Christian Homeschool Co-Op with enrichment classes for 7th -12th grade
  • '22/'23 Enrichment Classes include: Musical Theater and Physical Education
  • Field Trips, High School Social Events & Community Service Opportunities
  • www.acaec.net (ACA Home Office)
  • www.acasc.net/aca-sc/ (Local Extension Campus website)
  • www.acasc.net (Eagle's Nest Christian Homeschool Co-op)

Classical Conversations
  • Classical, Christian Home-centered Education Curriculum
  • Weekly Meeting Days
  • Offers Parent Practicum Trainings in various subjects (Math, Logic, Latin)
  • Extensive Online Resources (Forums, Video Tutorials, etc.)
  • Preschool Resources (Scribblers At-Home Program)
  • College Credit for High School Juniors and Seniors via CC Plus
  • https://members.classicalconversations.com/community-info/4037/Santa%20Rosa/
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Covenant Christian Academy (ministry of Santa Rosa Christian Church on Pacific Ave.)
  • K-12th Christian-based Academic Program for entire families
  • Monthly Encouragement Meetings for Moms
  • Annual Moms Retreat
  • Located on Santa Rosa Christian Church Campus (Pacific Avenue) with Gymnasium
  • Field Trip Opportunities
  • Optional “Academy Day” Co-op classes on Fridays
  • https://srchristianchurch.org/cca/
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Grace Christian Academy (ministry of The Bridge church in Santa Rosa)
  • Biblically-based Christian Education for K-12th Homeschooling Families
  • Optional Campus Days including 2 Days/week with Core Classes offered
  • Sports Opportunities
  • Grand Canyon University ALPHA (Alliance Program for Home School Achievement) Program Partner
  • Social Opportunities for Students (Student Showcase of Talents, High School Winter Social and Spring Prom, Graduation Night)
  • http://www.thebridgeconnects.org/gca

Click here for a map of  where these schools/homeschool groups are located in Sonoma County.

It is our hope that you find your home for Christian education here in Sonoma County, whether with us at PHCS or elsewhere.  When we bless each other and genuinely help each other succeed, we all rise.  Working together, we will raise a generation of children who love the Lord with their whole heart, who can think critically and speak eloquently, and who can use their education for the glory of God!





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Lessons in Wisdom:  a Year in Proverbs

4/15/2019

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"Tell me: Was that a wise choice or a foolish choice?"  The kindergarten teacher gently bent lower to catch her downcast eyes.  The child had been overheard using rude language at recess.
"Foolish choice." The small voice mumbled.

Our children are learning all the time.  Their world is constantly being shaped by the language they internalize.  Our experience of the world is only as big as our vocabulary to interpret it.  Our brains are wired to remember what we say much more than what other people say.  Literally, the words we use have power to shape our lives.

This year we are studying from the book of Proverbs during our weekly chapel in pursuit of wisdom.

Proverbs 1:7 clearly communicates the difference between the wise man and the foolish man.  Each week we look at a chapter in Proverbs with a local pastor or Mrs. See, mining nuggets of wisdom along the way.  

Again and again we are struck by the benefits of wisdom versus the personal cost of foolishness.  

But what is wisdom?  How do we know how to make the appropriate choice in each situation?

"But to those whom God has called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ is the power of God and the wisdom of God.  Because the foolishness of God is wiser than men, and the weakness of God is stronger than men." (1 Corinthians 1:24)

If Jesus is the wisdom of God, then the answer is: follow Jesus, read His Word, and you will be walking on the wise path.

Bear in mind: when we apply God's principles of wisdom with a student, helping them make their own wise choices, it's always with a message of love:

"The Lord loves you enough to save you from your own foolish path."  

The Bible is clear that there are always two choices: the wise, and the foolish path; the call of the Spirit, and the call of selfishness; following Jesus, and following the enemy.  If we are teaching children to listen to the voice of the Lord, while living amid a dark and fallen world, it is imperative they practice recognizing what the wise path and foolish paths look like, in word and in action.

With this in mind, the 2/3rd grade class took the challenge from the beginning of the year and set out to memorize the entire first chapter of Proverbs!  They just finished it and will recite it for the End of the Year Open House.  Each student in the school who can recite the chapter will receive a treasure box with a gold coin and a certificate of completion.  Nothing makes us more excited than when students actively and joyfully recite God's Word from their hearts!  To hear their little voices declare that "whoever listens to wisdom will live in safety and be at ease without fear of harm," impacts your heart in deep ways.

These children are internalizing God's wise path.  They will remember these words when life's choices come down the road.  It is our deepest mission to prepare our students for listening to the wisdom of Christ throughout their lives.  Giving them the vocabulary for God's perspective of their troubles is key to giving them understanding when temptation and confusion cloud their minds.  With His Word, God really does shine His light in our hearts.  This is whole-hearted education.


"The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it."  (John 1:5)

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Academic Competitions: How a Small School Can Do BIG Things

3/12/2019

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Tell a child to run across the field, and they might jog.  Tell two children to run across a field, and suddenly they are both racing to beat each other there.

In recent years the idea of competition has garnered bad press as possibly being "harmful to a child's self-esteem." However, there is a beneficial Biblical principle we cannot overlook.

"As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." (Proverbs 27:17)  

Competition (healthy competition, not malicious or spurred-on by riotous soccer moms, mind you) possesses a mechanism within it that unlocks our hidden potential.  This is why the Olympic games are such a sight to behold: the competitors have trained their bodies and minds for excellence through competition.

Healthy competition:  It's what pushes us from doing okay to doing our best.

In the healthy spirit of sharpening, students at PHCS compete in an array of extra academic competitions within our local community and the broader Christian school community.  With the support of the teachers and staff of PHCS, our students have the opportunity to push themselves to soar in different areas.  

If you're looking for a Christ-centered family atmosphere that emphasizes academic excellence, you'd be interested to know about the competitions our students take part in every year:
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  • Our very own Speech Meet is a school-wide competition where every student is assigned a poem, a verse, or a fable to memorize and present.  Teachers choose finalists to compete before community judges who use comprehensive rubrics to rank students into categories including: Good, Excellent, and Superior, based on their presentation skills.
 
  • The Spelling Bee is a regional competition with public schools in Western Sonoma County.  This year we placed 7th out of 40 competitors.

  • History Day is a regional, state, and national competition.  Ms. Kinser has required her 6th-grade students to participate for many years, often resulting in students moving on to the state competition, and even the nationals!  National History Day is actually a year-long academic program focused on historical research, interpretation and creative expression for 6th- to 12th-grade students. By participating in NHD, students become writers, filmmakers, web designers, playwrights and artists as they create unique contemporary expressions of history. The experience culminates in a series of contests at the local and affiliate levels and an annual national competition in the nation's capital in June.
 
  • Math Olympics is another competition we participate in, only with other Bay Area Christian Schools.  Competitions are proctored at individual schools, then mailed in to the host school for grading and ranking.  All students get a chance to qualify and then compete in either computation or problem solving.  We sent in our tests in mid-February and we should be getting them back early April.  Last year one of our PUMA's got 4th place in computation among all the 4th grade computation participants!
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We love our students, and want them to succeed in every area of life.  Adding academic competition into their curriculum encourages them to do their best, and gives special - and rightful - recognition to those who soar to the top of their discipline.  We are so proud of our students, and how they demonstrate that a very small school can do very big things! 



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Not Defined By Test Anxiety

2/19/2019

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It's one of the most common nightmares: where a person is surprised by a test in school for which they weren't prepared.  The anxiety can be paralyzing.

Students will go to any length of over-performing or giving up altogether to avoid the crippling judgment of failing a test.

But is that the purpose of a test?  To judge a student?

Not at all.  

Test scores are just part of the process of learning.  They hold no power over the value of a student.  Wherever they are in the process,  God's great love for them never changes.  It's our teachers' job to prepare our students for academic excellence, as well as convey their constant worth in God's eyes.

It's not teacher vs. student.  It's teacher ALONGSIDE student.

What if a test at school was like a mechanic turning the key to see if the car will start yet, or if he needs to keep tightening and building the engine?  What if a test is a teacher's way of seeing if her lessons have stuck, or if she still needs to keep teaching the lesson?  

Teachers at PHCS care about their students.  They want them to grow and succeed.  They care because our Father in heaven cares.

One young student this year was introduced to spelling tests.  Their anxiety felt overwhelming, and they felt doomed to fail, so they began shutting down emotionally and mentally.  The teacher caught on to this, and quickly took action.  She stayed in communication with the student's parent.  She talked with the student during recess and they agreed to do a verbal "pretest" right there on the picnic bench, in a relaxed environment, overlooking the trees and grass.  And during the test, she had a teacher's aide sit beside the student, just as moral support.  All of this was to support the student, to show that they were loved, by God and by others, so that they felt free to do their very best.


As our children grasp the immeasurable value that Christ gives us, they begin to tell themselves they can try.  They're willing to study and take tests.  They can try new things, and feel wobbly, and make mistakes without fear.  Because test scores are just part of the process.  And wherever they are in the process, it never changes His great love for them.

Real academic excellence comes from the foundation of a secure, resilient heart, rooted in Christ.  From there, we train our brains and give it all we've got, as if we were learning...as an act of worship to the Lord.  "

"Whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all unto the Lord." Colossians 3:17


"Cast all your anxieties (even test anxieties) on Him, because He cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7


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When Grandparents Make Private School Possible

2/5/2019

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"Why did you choose to help with your grandchildren's education at PHCS?"  The question hung in the air for a moment.

"Well, a couple of reasons actually," she replied.  "For one, we knew that there was no way, living in Sonoma County on a single income, that my daughter and son-in-law could afford private school for their kids.  It was a priority to them, but they needed a little help.  Besides, those kids belong to me, too.  And if I could help pay tuition so that they can have a Christ-centered education at such a special school, then I'm going to do that.  What other options are there?  Public school isn't what it used to be.  There is no 'neutral education.'  I feel like it's all a thin veil for other agendas.  At PHCS, they are learning about Jesus along with the other subjects.  And I can tell they really love it there, because their teachers really care about them."

PHCS grandparents are pretty special.  We have stories of many who sow themselves into their grandchildren's lives:

One grandpa was at a men's church retreat, when one night he had a dream about his granddaughter wanting to go to a Christian school. He woke up, and knew he had to be proactive about seeing what the possibilities were. He looked around for schools that were affordable and landed on PHCS's website.  He and his wife set up a tour and the rest is history!

Another grandma loves to help out during the week and has volunteered to deliver hot lunch entrees to the school EVERY Tuesday and Thursday.  Sometimes it isn't always a financial contribution; she contributes of her extra time to bless the children of the school and often stays afterwards to enjoy some recess activities with her granddaughter and her friends.

Last year we had a grandpa come in and coach our speech meet students before the big competition.  He came in and taught vocal projection and confidence tips to our students with warmth and humor. 

Another pair of grandparents became familiar faces around campus as they helped drop-off and pick-up their grandchildren while their daughter was home caring for a newborn baby.

​If you have school-aged grandchildren, you may be encouraged how much impact you can have on your grandchildren's lives through their education.  It truly is "one generation blessing another," in real time!


Why should grandparents look into supporting their grandchildren at a private Christian school?
  •  A unity of family values, and family beliefs
  •  Laying a firm foundation of strong character
  •  Giving them an academic advantage
  •  Investing your resources in what matters to your grandchildren, rather than toys/gifts
  • A point of connection into your grandchildren's lives

Our school community is so much richer with the giftings and talents our grandparents offer; and they often have time to be involved!  We are grateful for the love and support shown our students by their parents, and grandparents.  Consider how you could support your grandchild(ren) to provide whole-hearted Christian education.  Proverbs 17:6 "Grandchildren are the crown of the aged." 

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Benefits of the Big School Project: How National History Day prepares your students for life after school!

1/24/2019

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Two 5th graders from Ms. Kinser's class display their NHD poster!
By PHCS parent Dennis Bolt

Every elementary and middle school parent has the experience of their child bringing home the dreaded assignment sheet for that big school project. Be it the science fair, book report, or history diorama, many parents might dread it more than taxes! As the father of three boys who have gone through Pleasant Hill Christian School, I’ve seen it all, especially now that my youngest is in 5th grade. But I’ll be honest and say that I’m a bit of a project-nerd, so I have a more positive attitude about it. That largely is because I have grown to see the benefits of these projects, especially the National History Day project that the 4th-6th graders at PHCS complete every year.

For those who don’t know, National History Day is like a science fair, but focused on history. As the name suggests, it’s a national program/competition for students in the 4th-12th grades. At PHCS, Ms. Kinser has been doing it for several decades, and her students have gone on to compete at the county level, state level, and even the national level. The main elements of NHD are: research on a topic, fitting it to the annual theme (2019 is “Triumph and Tragedy in History”), and then making a project poster, 3-D display, paper, website, video documentary or performance. The main emphasis is finding strong primary sources, which are books written at the time, periodicals, letters, people alive at the time, photos, etc.

Bringing it back to the trenches of elementary school kids and families, I have found that these are the main benefits for a young person:
  1. Go to the Source: This element might be the hardest for an 11-year-old, but in this day-and-age, it may be the most important. With “fake news” and “information” readily available online, it is tempting to believe anybody or rely on the first thing you learn about a topic, whether it is history or current events. NHD stresses getting deeper into a topic by looking for the original source of the info and not just reading the Wikipedia page or the Google synopsis of an event. Find the person’s actual writings in a book or in a digital version at the National Archives or some credible source. Reach out and talk to a living expert. One of my sons did a project on the Space Race and he was able to email two astronauts who walked on the moon. It’s amazing how open these important people are when they are talking to a 5th grader! So the main lesson that NHD taught my kids was to go deeper in research and analysis, which is not a common trait at this age.
  2. Project Management: All of these big projects have something in common: deadlines! And if there is one thing that all of us adults know is that deadlines and projects are even more important at our job. While it’s fun to do a project about Pearl Harbor, the most important skill that the kids learn is how to take a large project apart into smaller digestible bits and meet a deadline. If your child  remembers anything about your NHD project, it is learning how to manage the many moving parts.
  3. Making Connections: The previous two points are probably the most applicable to adulthood, but this one is the most satisfying. NHD tries to get kids to look at events as connected to other events. Nothing exists in isolation. Their topic happened because of a previous event, and then that event had ripples that extended into the future. Learning cause-and-effect is very important for this generation. It may be cliched, but if you do not learn from past mistakes, you are destined to repeat them.

So, how do we, as parents, help our kids with their projects?

I think the first thing to do is help your child break down the deadlines. Sit down and map out when the project is due, and make smaller deadlines. Don’t cram it all in the last weekend before its due, but try to spend 30 minutes a day, or small chunks more often. This concept will carry over to anything like music practice, exercise, memorization etc. Kids need to learn this early. Secondly, as parents you need to be enthusiastic about their work, since if they see you being negative about it, they will assume that is the right way to approach hard work.

To learn more about National History Day click here.
To learn more about PHCS’s extra academic activities like History Day click here.



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Ms. Kinser and 6th grader Drake Bolt after winning a the California level in 2016. Drake went on to the national level and placed 4th in the country for his website.
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Family Atmosphere Precedes  Academic Excellence

1/21/2019

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"Ms. Porter started this tradition of greeting each student within the circle each morning. Think of it: once you feel welcomed and appreciated, would you feel ready to learn?"

Last fall this picture posted to our Facebook.  It quickly gathered a cascade of comments.  "What a fantastic idea!"  "They should adopt this in every workplace!"  "Think of the productivity!"  It made a connection that we do not always talk about, or even know is there, but resonates deeply within us when touched upon. 

It made the connection between belonging and learning.
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In a recent survey, one of the top reasons parents choose PHCS is its "family atmosphere," and a "sense of belonging for the children."  In a time when more and more parents are having to both work to make ends meet in Sonoma County, they are relying more on extended family, friends, and even teachers to become their village to help raise their children with the same values they hold.  In short, school becomes an extension of family.  And what is family but a place where you are welcomed and belong?

​Think of it: once you feel welcomed and appreciated, would you feel ready to learn?

Learning is hard work.  It's tough on someone's heart to be faced everyday with facts and skills you don't yet know and aren't yet good at.  Trying a new skill, and failing, and trying again is tremendously vulnerable business.  It brings up the questions, "Am I ever going to get it?  Am I smart enough?  What if I never learn this lesson?  Am I good enough?  What if I fail?  What then?  Will I stop belonging?  Will I still matter?

In the youngest grades, our teachers understand students are forming attitudes toward learning that they will carry their whole lives.  They understand that if a child feels un-welcomed, it may affect their whole school career from then on.  They understand, and deeply care about engaging their student's hearts, as well as their minds. 

When a child feels welcomed, they feel safe enough to open up to learning, trying, failing, and growing.  This practice of spending time at the start of each day welcoming each child, builds resilience into their hearts to tackle the challenges of life from a foundation of love and belonging.  This is what a family atmosphere at a school looks like.  This is the platform from which academic excellence can be achieved.  This is the love of Christ in action: ministering to a child's mind, soul, and spirit.
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Holiday Overwhelm:  Sleep and Eat Well

12/13/2018

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Of course they are the first things to go.  So naturally, they are the hardest things to remember - and plan for - when every other demand on our time is far louder this season.

We had so much more we wanted to say in our previous blog post, 4 Tips for Christian Parents to Fight Holiday Overwhelm, we decided to break down some of the parts a little further. 

It never hurts to get more practical how-to's for sleeping and eating well.  Especially when we are in the middle of a coffee-crash-that-coincides-with-hungry-toddler-meltdowns-and-everything-ever-feels-overwhelming kind of moment.  Been there.  So here you go:
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To fight holiday overwhelm as a parent, first try to sleep and eat well.  When pressures rise, sleep and good food are the first things to go.  Staying up late to finish that project.  Grabbing a quick drive-thru, something to keep going.  We cut corners to meet our holiday goals.  It's all based out of a heart of love, so shouldn't it be worth it?  Well, sometimes yes. But keeping up this pace for weeks (or months) all keeps stress levels high.  While making the season merry and bright for our loved ones, we may forget our own basic needs, and turn our own hearts and minds into plum pudding.

Sleep

You're tired.  You're irritable, and it's clearly everyone else's fault.
I know, Honey.  It's hard.  Now, I want you to do something:
Set a bedtime for yourself.  I mean it.  Select a person to hold you accountable.  Like a parent used to tell you it's time to turn out the lights, and no, you cannot have five more minutes.   We still need this kind of accountability.  A text from a friend.  An alarm on your phone.  A gentle reminder from a spouse.  Something.  Anything.

"But I can't shut my mind off!" you say.  I know.  Me neither.

But I learned a simple trick.  Talk to yourself.  When your thoughts run away with you, you can "parent your brain."  Talking out loud to your thoughts does something.  You will believe yourself more.  Think of it like this: in a conversation,  we typically remember snippets of what the other person said, but we can tell you most of what we said.  Turns out, we take our own words quite seriously.  Use this to your advantage.  Tuck yourself in and have a goodnight talk.  Outloud.  Tell yourself, "I am not thinking about my to-do list anymore.  I am done for the night.  It's time to sleep.  It's time to relax.  All will work out.  We can tackle that problem in the morning.  Now I am going to sleep."  Then take your words seriously.  Sleep.

Eat

It's winter.  You're hibernating.  And you have found yourself having coffee and gingerbread for lunch the past three days.  Or is that only me?!

I've heard the good advice that when you're craving sugar and caffeine, eat root vegetables and dark leafy greens.  They say it's the minerals and vitamins your body is actually craving.  I know, that's no fun.  But remember, we are fighting holiday overwhelm, which isn't any fun either!  So in that case, let's have no fun while nourishing our bodies, shall we?  The goal here is to feel better.  Here are some ideas:

Snack Ideas for the Commute:

 - Hard-boiled eggs
 - Nuts
 - Bananas
 - Berries
 - Yogurt Cups
 - String Cheese
 - Oranges/Strawberries/Kiwis (Vitamin C!)

Dinnertime ideas:

 - Soups/stews cooked with real stock.  It has tons of minerals and calcium.  (btw, the term these days for stock is "bone broth," but they're exactly the same.  It's the carcass of the chicken (or beef bones, or pork bones, or fish bones) boiled in a big pot of water with celery/onion/carrots/pepper/and a splash of white vinegar to help leach the minerals out of the bones.)
 - Sauteed chard/kale/spinach.  Again, vitamins and minerals.
 - Slow-roasted roasts, cooked all day in the crock pot.  Bonus, the house smells delicious all day.
 - Roasted root vegetable medley (think carrots, potatoes, yams, turnips).
 - Beans. (Iron, fiber, protein)
 - Fresh salads with nuts sprinkled on top. 
 - A side of raw sauerkraut/kimchi.  (Think: good bacteria=healthy digestive flora=boosted immune system)

In order to feel better, we must give ourselves the basics: we must sleep and eat.  The goal here is to feel better.  We many not be able to control weird Uncle Ben's affinity for telling war stories to the young children on Christmas Eve, but we can control ourselves.  We can control how we care for ourselves so we can make wise decisions each day.  We can control when we sleep and when we wake.  We can control what we put into our mouths. 

Remember: self-judgement is out the window.  Every day is fresh.  Every day we get to make new choices.  As we take care of the bodies God gave us, the world may feel a bit more friendly.  We may be able to see the people God has given us a bit more clearly, and love them as He has loved us.
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4 Tips For Christian Parents to Fight Holiday Overwhelm

12/4/2018

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You, dear parents of young children, are the hub of Christmas.  At least, that's what we hear from all sides.  You arrange the calendar, and make travel plans, negotiate family politics, and shop the deals, wrap and hide the presents, (and, oh yeah, the stocking stuffers too) bake the cookies, and print the Christmas cards,  decorate the house, and (re)decorate the tree after the kids have "helped" with the ornaments.  Then if you're still breathing you hide the elf-on-a-shelf, and visit Santa at the mall, and host a party or two, and bake the pies.  Then you posess that expression of bewilderment when people ask "how are you doing?" in passing.  

Between children, parents, grandparents, and crazy Uncle Rick all wanting a "special" time, you may find a small nervous tick developing just under your left eye.

The holiday season is no joke.  Especially for you, dear mom and dad.  

Here are 4 tools to make the festivities as realistic, and as enjoyable as possible:
  • Bedtime is your friend.  You need your sleep.  Your children need sleep.  Everyone will become their very best selves after a good night's rest.  The crying melt-downs of the night before (of children and parents alike), just may smooth out if a faithful bedtime is enforced, foreheads are kissed, and all is forgiven, the night before.
  • Establish realistic expectations.  Simplify where possible.  Children are great at letting their imaginations run away with them about what magical times the season will bring.  But we are not set-designers.  We are not fairy-godmothers.  We are parents, who are raising our children to have realistic expectations of themselves, their family, and the world.  Sit down and tell them what you will, and will not do.  There must be as many no's as there are yes's.  Probably more.  Disappointment is painful to endure, but be glad they're learning it at home first, under your tender care.  Think of it this way:  it's like weeding out space around the plants in your garden.  When each one has space around it, it can thrive.  When each activity has times of normal life before and after, it will have time to be looked-forward to, then remembered.  The results should be a well-metered schedule for your family.
  • Shop early.  I, as a parent, have spent far too many Christmases standing in long lines of grumpy people, at picked-over stores on December 23rd.  This year, I'm changing my tack. Here's the funny thing: shopping early is not impossible.  Right now is perfect.  Right now is still early.  But what do you get those relatives you're going to visit in a few weeks? 

Listen up!  I've got it.  Here's what you do: this weekend go to the cute little corner schoolhouse at 1782 Pleasant Hill Rd. in Sebastopol.  (Dec.7-9.  Fri. 5-9, Sat. 10-5, Sun. 10-4)
There, they are hosting an Artisan Boutique that is chock-full of all the greatest stuff.  Each of the classrooms are packed with things like wine-barrel furniture, fiber-art, decor, hats, scarves, frames, and all manner of locally-made crafts and unique finds.  I promise you: Aunt Hilda will be thrilled.  Your Mom will be tickled.  And your list will be DONE.


  • ​​Connect.  Now that you're done, or even before you're done: take stock.  Maybe slow down.  Take your heart to the Lord.  This whole hullabaloo was all to celebrate His birth.  He sees you, and he cares.  He cares so much He died on a cross to save you from your sins so you can come to him will all your guilt and be washed clean.  Connect with your Creator, and breathe as he made you to breathe.  Slowly.  In good rhythm with Him.  Connect with your loved ones.  Hug your spouse for way too long.  Stare off into the distance with a friend on a walk.  Get down on the floor with the kids and roll around.  Have a good cry if you need to.  Cries are sometimes the best; they open the doorway to a good laugh.  Remember God created you to live in connection, not isolation, even within your own head.  Let him connect you to your people in real and meaningful ways.  Because inside this place of connection, realistic expectations, good sleep, and early shopping, holiday overwhelm cannot even get through the door.
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