Every October there's the dance around this question in Christian circles.  "Do you celebrate Halloween?  Only partially?  Not at all?"

It is a rather odd holiday.  With its roots in ancient, pre-Christian Celtic traditions, October 31st was the day the dead were thought to return to earth.  In order to re-brand and redeem this day, Pope Gregory III chose November 1st as "All Saints Day," or "All Hallows' Day," making the evening before "All Hallows' Eve."  It worked - largely within the Catholic Church.  But the creepy/spooky traditions also survived in their own way.

So we are left with a strange amalgam holiday in America where children may dress up in costumes and trick-or-treat for candy at night in their neighborhoods.

But where does that leave us as Christian families?

Should your children celebrate Halloween?

We all know families on both sides of the fence.  Some families let their children trick-or-treat.  Some attend "trunk-or-treats" in their church parking lot: a safer, more controlled environment to dress up and score candy.  Some choose to focus on celebrating the harvest of the season instead, ignoring the whole Halloween scene entirely.

As a school, we don't celebrate Halloween.  

But we make it a point not to dictate Halloween policies for families.

What if we asked a different question instead?

How can we follow Jesus, even around this dicey, often divisive holiday?

How, as Christians, can we love our neighbor?

Maybe this Halloween can be a chance to extend grace to the people who don't agree with us.

Perhaps to extend grace is to be kind, to give the benefit of the doubt, and to simply let different choices exist within the body of Christ.

What if the gospel still remained in tact, whether we keep our children in for the night, or let them go out?

Each of us must act according to our own conscience in the Lord.  As in anything. 

From the book of Proverbs:
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding;
 in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight."

We don't have all the answers.  Halloween can be a touchy holiday within the Church, but it doesn't have to be divisive when we treat others' choices with gracious attitudes.

 Every year there's that moment. 

When parent-teacher conferences come around, there will be that parent who finds herself sitting outside the classroom, feeling those initial jitters.  She can't help wondering if she'll receive some bombshell news about her child:  Is he bullying another student?  Is he dyslexic?  Did he win the state spelling bee and forget to mention it at home?

It may seem ridiculous, but the fear of the unknown is real.  

Luckily, parent-teacher conferences were invented in order to dispel that fear.

We asked the pros - our teachers here at PHCS - about what they look forward to about parent-teacher conferences.  Listed below are some great insights from the other side of the table.  Bottom line:  it's about communication, teamwork, and consistency. 

Remember: you, as a parent, are not on the hook.  The teacher is not out to get you, or your child, in trouble.  You can stop looking sideways at them:  You both are on the same team in your child's education.  

In light of this teamwork, here are some do's and don't about your P/T Conference:

Do's:

• Arrive on time.  It tells them that their time is important, and respected.
• Ask questions.  We found a great online resource here for important questions.  Our own teachers love getting questions like:
  • "What can I do at home to support what you're doing in the classroom?"
  • "How can I help my child succeed in school academically, spiritually, and emotionally?"
  • "What do you see as his/her strengths and/or weaknesses?"
• Soak in your child's strengths.  The teacher is happy to deliver good news.  Don't brush them aside to get to the bad news.
• Take notes.  Pen and paper, on your smartphone, whatever.  Just jot down what you discuss.
• Fill them in about home life.  Home always affects school.  This was the most important thing to one of our teachers:  How is the student doing personally?  When a teacher knows more about what's going on at home, they can better address the student's needs at school.
• Take turns listening to each-other's concerns.
• Strategize solutions.  This is where a team-mindset really works.  Do you need to clear a quiet space at home just for homework?  Does your child need a healthier lunch packed, to keep them fueled for the whole school day?  How can you help, as the parent?

Dont's:

• Arrive late, or not at all.  Nothing could say more clearly to the teacher, "You and your work with my child are not worth my time," than by missing that bi-annual (or tri-annual) meeting.
• Make excuses for why your child isn't doing well.  Rather, focus on how to help your child succeed.
• Doubt what the teacher tells you.  They are trained professionals.  If they have shared something with you, it was for a good reason, and quite often, with supporting evidence.  Please take their observations into consideration, for the sake of your child, even if it puts pressure on a sensitive spot for you.

Let's be Consistent
It's hard for your child to function in two disparate worlds of home and school.  When both parent and teacher have a good idea of what's going on in the other's camp, they can re-inforce each other's plans, systems, and even language.  One parent at our school learned that the principal was teaching the children about good behavior and bad behavior by using language from Proverbs about making wise choices vs. foolish choices.  She loved this idea, and now corrects her children at home by talking about making wise choices to glorify God. 

​As one of our teachers said the other day, "I am 'the parent' during the school day and they are the parent at home. If we work together, these children will have consistency throughout their day to foster their success."

​So many choices.  When looking for a school, we have more options at our fingertips than ever before.  Do we send our kids to public school?  Private school?  Do we home-school?  Join an educational co-op?  Online school?   It can feel freeing and overwhelming at once.  In order to shed some light, we asked our parents here at PHCS why they made the decision to enroll in a small, private, Christian school.  Here are some of their answers:


Why drive across town to go to school every day?
"I wanted my daughter to go to school in a safe, nurturing environment.  I wanted to ensure that her significance as a child of God - and how that overarching truth shapes everything in life and learning - was the most important part of her education.  I wanted my child to be truly known, not just another kid in the hall or on the playground.  That small, family-like environment is worth the drive to me."

How does school relate to life at home?
"It's important to us that the foundation that we have set at home for living to honor Christ will be solidified at school as well.  If any situation were to arise at school, I have the confidence and peace of mind to know that the teachers and administrators will handle things in a biblical way, and that we can all refer back to the Bible as our benchmark of appropriate behavior."

Why commit to volunteer hours at the school?
"The teachers and staff do so much to help my child grow as a person, I want to help support them in what they need.  While volunteering, we meet different parents and students from other classes, so it brings us together, forming a stronger community.  I really enjoy helping in the classroom: seeing the different personalities and watching the kids in their own space."

Why did you choose this route for elementary school?
"It gives them a solid foundation, both academically, and spiritually.  Kids are so malleable when they're young.  The things they learn early on (either that they're a beloved child of God, or that they're only a seat filled and a test score) will stick with them through their life.  The foundation of Christ will carry them wherever they go later on: whether to a public education, or anywhere else."

No matter where you choose to send your child, be assured that YOU are the right person to make the decision for their education.  You know them better than anyone.  What is right for some may not be right for others.  Know your child, your family, and your values.  If a private Christian education seems in line with those, we know a great school...